First of all... I'm tired of this dismal picture of the successful black woman who is lonely because either she intimidates black men or no black men are "qualified" to be with her (since successful black women outnumber successful black men 3-to-1...) The successful black women I know are married, single because they want to be, or are lesbians. None of them are lonely or sad. None of them think that dating white men is "the answer" to their "problem."
I read this little article, "Interracial Love Is the Answer for Black Women," and I disagree with it. What worked for the woman in the article may not work for other black women. I don't care what Oprah says about seeing what's out there. I don't believe that "black women are in a market failure."
Having said all that, I'm not totally opposed to dating a white man. Seeing interracial couples does nothing to me. Folks find love where they find it, and that's cool. I'm not really afraid of taking a white boy home. The fam will get over it. And I definitely don't care what People (you know, the almighty "They") say.
My general opinion of The White Race would be a problem in a relationship with a white man. I can't talk shit TO The Man about The Man and then go sleep with him. It'll start off decent and sweet enough and then he'll say something and upside his head I must go. Or... His mom will get out of line and "See... That's why I don't fuck with crackers," might just slip out of my mouth. I foresee lots of ill will and a bad break up.
Furthermore, I have come across more dudes who feel like John Mayer than will admit it. The white men I have crushed on in the past may like to think they'd date me but the image of a difficult black woman prevails and they don't. My personality in general doesn't help. I don't roll over easily. White men I've known don't "do" fiesty.
I am single. I am strong. I will be successful. Do I think that will stop me from finding a man? Well... I don't really think about it. I don't sit around wondering if a man will come through and sweep me off my feet. I'm attracted to certain qualities in a man and when I'm really ready to get married, a man with what I want will be there.
Don't talk to me in statistics. I don't want to hear that I'll be too successful for a black man. Don't tell me abandon hope and settle for a white man. I'm not looking for an "answer," but if I were it would always be a strong, ambitious, intelligent, funny, creative MAN. And he is out there.
I read this little article, "Interracial Love Is the Answer for Black Women," and I disagree with it. What worked for the woman in the article may not work for other black women. I don't care what Oprah says about seeing what's out there. I don't believe that "black women are in a market failure."
Having said all that, I'm not totally opposed to dating a white man. Seeing interracial couples does nothing to me. Folks find love where they find it, and that's cool. I'm not really afraid of taking a white boy home. The fam will get over it. And I definitely don't care what People (you know, the almighty "They") say.
My general opinion of The White Race would be a problem in a relationship with a white man. I can't talk shit TO The Man about The Man and then go sleep with him. It'll start off decent and sweet enough and then he'll say something and upside his head I must go. Or... His mom will get out of line and "See... That's why I don't fuck with crackers," might just slip out of my mouth. I foresee lots of ill will and a bad break up.
Furthermore, I have come across more dudes who feel like John Mayer than will admit it. The white men I have crushed on in the past may like to think they'd date me but the image of a difficult black woman prevails and they don't. My personality in general doesn't help. I don't roll over easily. White men I've known don't "do" fiesty.
I am single. I am strong. I will be successful. Do I think that will stop me from finding a man? Well... I don't really think about it. I don't sit around wondering if a man will come through and sweep me off my feet. I'm attracted to certain qualities in a man and when I'm really ready to get married, a man with what I want will be there.
Don't talk to me in statistics. I don't want to hear that I'll be too successful for a black man. Don't tell me abandon hope and settle for a white man. I'm not looking for an "answer," but if I were it would always be a strong, ambitious, intelligent, funny, creative MAN. And he is out there.
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