Nicole be Thinking...

A couple weeks ago, I unfollowed someone I said I wouldn't unfollow. I enjoy Twitter because of the possibility of open discourse. The ability to disagree without the consequence of losing a friend or offending a church member. Because of this freedom and openness, I always said that disagreeing with someone isn't reason enough to unfollow him/her. I had been following someone with whom I usually disagree and it got to be too much and I realized that the disagreement wasn't the reason he had to get off my timeline. Of course, everything here doesn't apply to him, and some of these points apply to people I need to stop following. Either way, here are some resons I have to unfollow... I don't like negativity, so I don't follow people who are always starting internet feuds. Worse than that is one who uses his/her "celebrity" to incite drama or negativity. A while ago, there was a discussion about not liking India Arie. When one person disagreed, the ...

Facebook and Twitter nomenclature has screwed up regular face-to-face interaction. This idea of "friends" and "followers" has gotten a little misconstrued. And since we are clearing the air this week, I thought I'd help you understand... In the early days, your Facebook friends were... your friends. They were people who attended your college, or nearby colleges, that had the potential to become friends. As more colleges were added you began to have Facebook friends that you knew from high school and earlier. Then they opened the site to high school students, so now your kid cousin is your friend. Now anybody can join, so all your coworkers are requesting you. Being in contact with someone you once knew is a great thing, but make no mistake, ALL of these people aren't your friends. Your friend count is 1,428. Can you have drink and genuine conversation with all of them? Twitter eliminated all the baggage that comes along with being someone's "friend...

I tell you who I am every time I open my mouth; you never have to guess. However, I am probably the most misunderstood of any of my friends. Since it is Clearing the Air week, I think it would be appropriate to clear up a few things. The following list of "Nicole Norms" is not exhaustive, but they are the most common things people do or want to do that are simply not cool. These are just a few hints to keep you from getting cussed out. Don't say I didn't warn you... Don't touch me uninvited. Everyone doesn't get greeted with a hug, and I'm not going to hug you every time I see you. This isn't high school. A "what's up" will do. And... Don't randomly touch me either. I'll notice and I won't like it. Wait until you're invited. You'll know. Don't shorten my name. My mother named me Nicole. I like to be called Nicole. Definitely can't do Nikki (you should know why...). If it's not broken, don't fix it. My n...

I've been in Nashville for a while now. It doesn't even come close to my hometown, but I am here for a purpose and I have learned to make it my own. Since I decided to stay in Nashville, I am going to make it as awesome as I am; therefore, I have fun everywhere I go. I'm super tired of hearing (or seeing, as the case may be) people complain about how wack Nashville is. So… This Terrible Tuesday I give you 5 stupid points Nashville Naysayers make: 1. There's Nothing to do Here This isn't a travel blog, so I'm not about to list all the fun stuff there is to do in Nashville. A lot of the stuff I do isn't "every-person" friendly so I'm not about to list all the fun stuff  I do in Nashville. What I can say is that I've never had an issue with anything closing too early (except the liquor store). Once it's gets started, I've never had to stop my fun too early. There is a lot to do in Nashville whenever you want to if you're open m...

2010 has been a good year for me. But... along the way some relationships have suffered. Not the ones that matter, of course. People say friendship is seasonal. I would have to disagree. The people who actually know me are still there for me -- and I for them -- even if we don't talk on a regular basis. It's those people who weren't true in the beginning that fade away when the seasons change. No matter the circumstances, I have realized that I'm not very good at ending friendships. It's not easy for me to call someone a friend. I'm cool with most people but I can count my real friends on my hands. The hardest part of this year was realizing that I was calling the wrong people my friends. One "friend" judged me during a time when I needed support the most. That brought me Facebook drama so I just stopped talking to her. Changed my number and moved on. Another "friend" believes that I try to make her jealous by talking about dudes. She told a ...

Every once in a while, I go through a period of reflection in which I evaluate myself and the people around me. The findings are usually the same. I know myself pretty well. There's always a friend who wasn't really friend who either shows her true colors or simply isn't around anymore. The people who are truly there for me are still there for me, even if we don't kick it often. It's usually a peaceful, naturally-occuring process. Others times it's drama induced. This time... It's a mix of both. I had this period of introspection some time at the beginning of the year. I thought about the things that would fulfill me the most. Decided that I was going to stay in Nashville to watch my brothers grow up. Realized that I could find contentment within myself and I could be domesticated on my own terms. Resolved issues with my oldest friends and was able to come to terms with the fact that we could love each other and still grow in different directions. The drama ...